The Office Chronicles

Fresh Off The Press From The
"Well Ain't That A Blip" Office Files....


INTRO: This morning I just want to vent a little bit. So please bear with me. For some time I've put off blogging about my job and my promotion (lack there of) situation, because I simply didn't want to think about it. If I want to have a good day, I just shove certain thoughts under the rug and keep it moving.

NEW JOB OPPORTUNITY: But today, I have chosen to speak about the office, because I've been permitted to peform a detail position in another office. After going through the line of protocol and discussing my disappointment in not getting a grade promotion after performing the work of a senior analyst for years, my supervisor and her bosses allowed me time away on a detail. For those of you who don't work for Uncle Leroy's gubment, a detail is a temporary job in another office. My job position itself is still permanent; I still belong to the old office. It's like my office loaning me and my work out to another office. And sometimes detail positions lead to permanent positions in the office the person is doing the detail. I haven't put any pressure and unrealistic expectations on myself. All I want to do is a great job, and then whatever happens happens. But I'll pray and hope for the best.

THE CATCH: Well friends, things can never ever be that easy. There's always got to be some mess. Just last week, my supervisor told me that today I would be allowed to start work in the new area. All that I would have to do is finish two letters, then I would be free to go do my thing. Yeah right. Two women are supposed to take over my work while I'm gone. Yup, two people will do the job of one workhorse (me). But the older lady co-worker is making all kinds of smart remarks, which is really starting to annoy me. She's getting to be a real pest. I have a lot of reading and learning to do with the new work area, and she's not making things any better by trying to give her work to me. I don't have time for it. It's a shame that people can't be happy for you when something good comes your way.

THE REAL DEAL: Let me give you a brief background about her. She came to my division about a year or so ago. She worked on other projects. But late last year, she started working on my project, because my office needed a backup for me. I thought my co-workers and I were cool until a meeting last December. My office and another office met to iron out some details of a new process. I simply made the recommendation that the analysts (the older lady and myself) should be responsible for pushing out the instructions and work, and not the supervisors, who manage several divisions and travel domestically and internationally for meetings. Instead of taking the time to listen to what the workhorse (me) had to say, the older lady co-worker turned her back to me and dismissed what I said in front of everybody. I had a "Oh No, She Didn't" moment, but I remained quiet. If you can't trust folks on your team, it's time to move on to another job. Now, my words have come full circle in that the new work process is severely behind, because the supervisors didn't manage and push the work out. I really wished that I cared, but I don't. Folks didn't listen, so now they need to deal with the ramifications and implications of their nifty ideas. Cuz, I iz through.

A TRUE PAIN IN THE YOU KNOW WHERE: Now that it is time for me to start work with the new office, the older lady is showing her true colors. Last Friday, I held a transitional meeting to provide background information about my project to the people taking over. But the older lady kept making comments like => "I'm going to keep sending you emails about the project." "You're not going to get out of this work." "You really need to attend next Monday's meeting as part of your transition." "You need to help us get this work done." "All this work will be waiting for you when you come back 4 months from now." "From time to time, we will be keeping you abreast of the project." "Look for the emails." "Who has this or that, because someone said that our office is unresponsive?" "So, are you coming to the meeting?" "We're going to keep you in the loop." Last week I had 1,000 emails in my work account, which I pared down to 890. Now I'm receiving emails from the new and old office (several from the older co-worker just today). I need to get familiar with the delete button. *shrug* Friends and family can't understand why I haven't put my co-worker in her place yet. I try to give folks the benefit of the doubt, but this is really stretching it. And that's the honest to goodness truth. I don't owe my co-worker any explanations as she is not my boss. It's none of her business if I choose to apply for another job, go to grad school, or anything else. Furthermore, it's every man (person) for himself when it comes to decisions involving advancement. Besides, what would I look like staying back and supporting everybody else, while I go another year without a promotion? That just doesn't make good sense. Whatever dude! The older lady is just a co-worker bummed out about having to take on my workload. In the past, when other co-workers were promoted or moved to another division, I wished them well and didn't bother them as they moved along. I took on their workload and kept it moving without all of the moaning and complaining and catty comments.

Trying To Keep Cool: Last time I checked I noticed that I got one paycheck, so why in the world would I try to do two jobs? I may be a lot of things, but I ain't crazy. I did all that I could to bite my tongue last week and today. I really hate confrontations, but if that woman comes to me complaining and making jabs about me getting an opportunity in another office, I might have to give Ms. Lady a piece of my mind in a nice way. I hope that it won't come to this though. I really don't want to hurt her feelings. At the same time I want her to realize that she is capable of doing this work and to not feel overwhelmed, because she has more experience and education than I do. I'm trying to deal with this situation the best way I know, but if you all have any suggestions, please do tell. <:-}

Oprah On The Hot Seat...

Ms. Winfrey, Silence Can Be Golden...

I'm a little behind in my posting, and meant to blog about this last week when all of this mess was taking place. As some of you may know, Oprah has a list of books she recommends. The short and skinny of this set up is that after announcing her picks, her audience and target consumer population go out and buy the books, which propels some unknown authors to fame. Some of the authors were already notable figures in the literary world, while others are brand new. For the new ones, they can catch the jackpot if she loves them. When Oprah speaks, many people listen.

Before I get to discussing this here thang that went down recently, please know that I'm not an Oprah fan or hater. I view Oprah's talk show as a buffet bar. I choose what I like from her show, and simply discard the rest. This means that I like her shows about fashion, celebrities, and home decor. But I switch the channel when she discusses spiritual and relationship issues, since I'm not on the same page with her about those things. To each her own, right?

Back to the issue at hand...Last year, Oprah chose the "A Million Little Pieces" book by James Frey. This book was supposed to be a memoir detailing the experiences that Frey endured while struggling with his substance abuse problems. Oprah fell in love with the book. In fact, she gave some gifts to Frey's mother on her "Favorite Things" show. But then, the "Smoking.Gun" website found out that Frey had embellished a few things. (Side Note: FOLKS CLAIM THAT WE LIE, WHILE THEY EMBELLISH...FREY'S BUTT LIED!!!) Then Frey appeared on the Larry King Live show to set things straight. He claimed that he made up somethings to make himself appear to be badder and tougher than he really was. Perhaps, he did this for the sake of sensationalism. Shux, I don't care; I didn't buy the book. But while I was running my mouth on the phone, I was also channel surfing when I came upon the Larry King show. And lo and behold, good ole Oprah called in to take up for Frey quite strongly. She had his back. She basically said that although the facts were embellished (lies), the book still helped others who had similar struggles to Frey. Well, Hello America, the Golden Voice has spoken. *extreme sarcasm*

A week or so later, a columnist from the Washington.Post echoed the same thing I and other folks had been saying. Suddenly, is what's right wrong and what's wrong right? We couldn't really understand why Oprah felt compelled to call into the Larry King show. She didn't take up for Kirk Franklin (his skinmagazine addiction), Toni Braxton (past bankruptcy with Arista Records), and some other folks. So what makes Frey any different. I could have understood her putting out a short statement to say that the show was unaware of Frey's lies. But no, she went to bat for this guy. And because of all of this hoopla, Frey's books are still selling well.

Then the next week she did a total 180 Degree turn. She invited Frey to be on her show. Initially, he probably thought that she was going to roll out the red carpet for him, and mollycoddle him some more. Not. He was like a deer in the headlights. She lit him up like a Christmas tree, and all he could do was sit there and look straightforward. Oprah had the home court advantage and controlled all parameters of communication, since the doggone thang was unfolding on her show. If she didn't like the way the show came out, all she had to do was edit or totally can the show. It's beyond me why Frey didn't just walk off the show that was in progress. Oprah was telling him that he duped her and the nation. I was wondering whether this show was devoted to her ego or to her product brand (her show) as business and tv analysts have indicated. Although Oprah apologized, I don't think she took enough responsibility for her own missteps. She needs to realize that she picked Frey's book and not the reverse. Even after she found out that he lied, she powerfully came to his aid. But now she's changed her mind and is furious with him? If she just stayed mum, things would have blown over. So now if Frey harms himself in some kind of way behind experiencing her wrath on her show, will Oprah come out and do another show to twist this thang some more? When does it end?

Then the news/spin tv shows went to work on Oprah like it was nobody's business. They held panel discussions with about four or five folks to talk down about the woman. Some made it sound sort of personal. But what I actually realized is that some of the panelists and tv bigmouths may never admit it, but some of them are probably thinking that no woman of color should have a billion dollars and the empire that she has. So those folks had no shortage of backhanded comments directed towards Oprah. Was I starting to feel sorry for her? Perhaps, I don't know. But there is one thing that I do know. Silence can be golden!

Remembering Mrs. Coretta Scott King

A Lady Of Class And Dignity.....
1927-2006


As I was getting ready for work this morning, the news reported that Mrs. Coretta Scott King had passed away last night in her sleep at the age of 78. Mrs. King never really recovered from the stroke she sustained last fall. And throughout the news report, all I kept thinking was how elegant and dignified this lady had been during the worst moments of her life. Although I had not been born at the time when Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. was assassinated, I can remember the picture of his widow sitting stoicly holding their young daughter at his funeral. I can remember her holding her head high. She put on a brave face to show the world that she may have been down, but not out.

Although people usually think of her husband when the civil rights movement is mentioned, people need to also know that Mrs. King was a civil rights activist in her own right. Mrs. King didn't sit quietly in a corner as a widow and the matriarch of her family. She stayed quite active in human rights and equality initiatives. She gave speeches, traveled, and met international dignitaries to continue her husband's work. She lived a wonderful life, and I am so glad that she graced with her presence. Now Mrs. King's work is done. Soror/Mrs. Coretta Scott King, Rest in Peace.

Dreamgirls Takes To The Big Screen...

Beyonce' Tries Her Hand At Acting Again...

While surfing the net, I came across some production pictures (courtesy of the Beyonce World website) of the "Dreamgirls" project that is being adapted to the silver screen movie format. The original "Dreamgirls" producton was loosely based on the 1960's girl group, "The Supremes", which included Diana Ross, Florence Ballard, and Mary Wilson. Typically, in situations like these, one of the ladies wishes to be "The Breakout Star" and have the other two be the backup singers way, way, way, back in the background. I suppose the producers and directors chose Beyonce' to star in this movie, because of her experience in dealing with the break up of a girl group. She says that she's really excited about this movie, and that this will be the first time she'll have the opportunity to really "act" in a movie, although she has appeared in others.

I've been keenly interested in this movie project, because I really wonder whether the cast can really pull it off. Some things should really never ever be remade, and long ago I thought "Dreamgirls" was one of them. The original "Dreamgirls" project appeared in 1982 as a Broadway show starring Jennifer Holliday, Sheryl Lee Ralph, and Loretta Devine just to name a few. If you've ever heard Jennifer Holliday sing the "I'm Not Going" song, you know why I'm just a bit skeptical about any remakes. Jennifer, the vocal powerhouse, absolutely blows that song away, and to date, no one has ever been able to sing like her or sing the song better than she can. And I mean no one!!! So all that I'm saying is that the Broadway show is a tough act to follow. And to top this off, the cast of the original "Dreamgirls" won several Tony awards that lets you know how dazzling they were. This whole scenario puts a whole lot of pressure on the new project that also stars Jamie Foxx, Eddie Murphy, Danny Glover, Anika Noni Rose, and Jennifer Hudson. I just bet the movie studio execs are banking on this movie to be a huge success, but we'll have to wait and see. Dreamworks has set up an Official Dreamgirls Movie Website to provide updates leading up to the movie's premiere projected to happen by the end of this year. If I don't go to see this movie for any other reason, I'll go to see Jamie Foxx. *wink*

Former Destiny's Child Member Prepares To Release Album...



LeToya Luckett Reappears...

I guess Letoya Luckett, formerly of Destiny's Child, has let bygones be bygones with Beyonce', since the Destiny's Childs group's big fiasco went down. As some may recall, LeToya and LaTavia Roberson left the girl group for reasons that differ depending on whom you speak to. LeToya and LaTavia stated that they had a problem with the management (Matthew Knowles and Beyonce's pop) of the group, while the new Destiny's Child members stayed mum about it. Then there were reports that LeToya and LaTavia were kicked out of the group for speaking up. LeToya and LaTavia ended filing court cases against the group and the management, but later things were quietly settled out of court for an undisclosed amount of money. Then the new group added Michelle Williams and Farrah Franklin, but Farrah soon jetted just before the really big money started to roll in. (Side Note: I wonder is she somewhere kicking herself.)

Sure Destiny's Child existed for a while before the first break up, but for some reason after all of the musical chairs and personnel changes in the group, it seems that things sort of took off for the latest transformation of Destiny's Child. The new group went multiplatinum and many more opportunities (solo recording careers; acting in movies, tv, and broadway, and creation of a fashion house) popped up for its members (mostly Beyonce') . LeToya and LaTavia tried to pair themselves off with a couple of other girls in Atlanta, GA to form the group, "Anjel," but the production fell through and they were back to square one. They gave it the good ole college try and things still didn't work out.

But anywho, LeToya has moved on. It appears that she's taken her settlement money and opened a new boutique in the Houston, TX area called "Lady Elle." I recently read in a magazine that LeToya has seen and spoken to Kelly and Beyonce' since the split, and things between them seem to be okay. It's good to see that everyone is acting mature about the whole thing. In fact, LeToya's store is selling clothes from Beyonce's and Beyonce's Mother's (Tina) company named the "House of Dereon." LeToya has had pleasant things to say about the new Destiny's Child and Beyonce. No more grudges. I think that's a healthy mindset for LeToya to have before releasing her first solo CD, because she really doesn't need the media pitting her work against Beyonce's, although they may do that anyway. LeToya's self-titled album is set to be released sometime this spring. I haven't heard any of LeToya's music, but I just hope that she can be successful also. Why not?


Kanye West's Controversial Magazine Cover...



Publicity Stunt Or Not?

Kanye West's name is in the news again. This morning I heard on the radio that Kanye is appearing on the cover of a magazine as Jesus. As a Christian, I frankly don't care for the cover. It seems to me that Kanye wants to be a spokesman for something or someone, but sometimes he has trouble in knowing what to say or how to deliver it. From his onset, I haven't really known what he's all about one way or the other. But it's hard to tell with stars, because it could all be part of an elaborate publicity stunt. When Kanye came out with the "Jesus Walks" song, I never took it for a gospel song, while some churches and people in the Baltimore-Washington metro area fully embraced it. I just thought it was another rap from a rapper. Nothing more...Nothing less...I never had anything against him; I just never saw him as a gospel singer or rapper.

Fastforward to last fall when he made remarks about the topmop and the topmop's response to the Katrina disaster. I don't know Kanye personally, but I agreed with his statement about the bad treatment of some people. He just stated what a lot of people were thinking. The images of black people suffering for days on end at the Superdome were mindboggling and very disappointing when help could have been provided. So, Kanye spoke his peace. The mainstream powers that be in the music industry quickly silenced Kanye from making anymore statements about that. In fact, a week or so later he appeared on another star telethon show, and he explicitly stated that he wouldn't be making any comments about the Katrina disaster. Hmm. Kanye could have made a more powerful statement if he had stuck to what he said initially and not backed down even if he had to sacrifice his recording career. But I still wonder what the music label told him.

Kanye has since resumed his public speaking. I haven't gotten a chance to read the magazine article yet, but the folks on the radio said that Kanye took the picture posing as Jesus to make a statement that mainstream America wants people to do great things but not to say that they are great. The radio personalities are saying that Kanye said something to that effect. I repeat that I don't know the man, but I think he better get a lasso out of his superhero bag and capture his ego. *lol* But seriously, I just hope one day Kanye will learn that great people don't have to go around tooting their horns, because their greatness shines through. For it's usually some of the most humble people who do the greatest and most profound things.

Weighing In With Star Jones Reynolds

What's The Big Deal About Her W.eight Loss?

I'm just getting caught up on my blog. I really meant to post this last week after watching her appear on Larry King's show, but I got bogged down with work and completing my grad school application. But I'm back on the blog scene.

What's up with Star and her tremendous w.eight loss? Lately, she's been going on tv shows to promote her new book, "Shine." She admits that she use to weigh about 300 lbs, but now is a size 10. Star has been guarding the story behind her w.eight loss like it is some type of top secret stuff. She leaves nothing else as a secret (everything about her sweet man). So why this? I don't see what the big deal is. It's apparent that she took off a ton of weight. Or maybe all of this part of her promotional tactic to sell her new book. Who knows one way or the other? But I will accept the notion that it is the business of celebrities to do what they want with their bodies. (Note: My sister informed me that I was using the term "celebrity" quite loosely with regard to Star Jones....Hmmm....Patti Labelle sings...Denzel Washington acts...And Debbie Allen sings, acts, and dances. So, I was asked what Star does? And I suppose she's a daytime tv talk show host on "The View." *weak smile*)

She says that she won't give specifics, but a couple of weeks ago she appeared on the cover of "People Magazine" or another celebrity magazine with a big ole caption above her picture stating "How She Lost The Weight!!!" So is she going to talk about it or not. Nope. She says that she doesn't want to be the poster child for w.eight loss. And she says she doesn't want another person to try what she tried, because it may not work for that person or the person might experience something tragic. She said something to that effect. Sometimes what people "aren't" saying is what they "really" are saying if that makes any sense to you. Hmm... Eating healthy foods, controlling food portions, and exercising regularly sound like elements of a healthy w.eight loss program. But Star probably had that stomach stapling procedure performed, which is fine, because that might be the appropriate treatment for some folks. If so, all she had to do is add a disclaimer encouraging people to consult a physician before making any decisions. She missed an excellent opportunity to explain how w.eight loss helps to prevent diabetes, high blood pressure, pain in joints, etc. Oh well.

I like NBC's "The Today Show" weatherman Al Roker's approach better. He was upfront with everything. In fact, he let the cameras be present for most of his surgery. He never told people to get the surgery or not to get it. And he was honest in admitting that everything wasn't sunshine and lollipops (err... and granola) as a result of his surgery. He explained that he wished that he could have done it on his own through diet and exercise. And for that, I have a lot of respect for Al in the way that he went about things. Star could learn something from Al. It's the way people go about things. I believe some of the jabs directed to Star by J. Anthony Brown from the Tom Joyner Morning Show can be a bit over the top. But she just gives folks way too much material to work with which makes her an easy target.

About Star's new advice book==> Girl please?! What sage words of wisdom does she have for us? What can she tell us? How to find a husband? *sideways glance* I'm not going to touch that. *rolling eyes*

On to the next topic==>



Flav's Chic Show on VH1

Can someone tell me what this show is about? Last week while I was on the phone, I was channel surfing and I came across this show. I don't make it a habit to watch stuff like this, but I wanted to find out what the point of this show was all about. Is this show a joke or are the contestants for real? On other reality shows, people usually win something for making fools out of themselves. Folks usually win money, prizes, recording contracts, modeling contracts, exposure to talent scouts, etc. So what do the women on Flav's show get for hanging out with the heavily metalliced grilled one? A set of mini grills? A new kitchen clock necklace? *shrug*

**Side Note: I purposely misspelled w.eight loss to keep folks from placing advertisements in my comments section for free. This ain't no billboard. Shux...

Happy New Year 2006!!!...

Wishing You Peace, Happiness, & Prosperity In 2006!!!

Every year, I usually talk to family and friends to discuss New Year's resolutions. Some told me that they don't make resolutions, because things won't change and it's just a waste of time, while others develop a lengthy resolution list. I'm one of those who develops a list. What can I say? I'm an optimist. I always love beginnings, because they represent opportunities to develop and grow. It represents a time for self-reflection and a time to dream of life's possibilities. Maybe this year, I might get the promotion I deserved years ago. Or maybe grad school will pull me away in an altogether new direction. The Lord may have Mr. Right to stroll my way. I may get a chance to do some traveling and finally visit the museums like I said that I would do last year (but didn't).

As for New Year's Resolutions, here are mine. :

1. I want/need to get closer to God.

2. I want to spend more time with my friends and family. Last year, I'm ashamed to say that I worked most of the year and only visited my family around Thanksgiving and Christmas. And I only got to call some friends who live far away may be once or twice last year. I put all of my eggs in the work basket, and an elephant hoof came down on that basket and smashed it to smitherines as I still didn't get promoted. I learned that you can work yourself into the ground, and folks at work still won't appreciate it. Instead, it would be wiser to put more time and energy into friends and family. A lesson well learned.

3. I don't want to be afraid to dream. I'm famous (among friends and family) for coming up with fantastic dreams and goals. I tell ya that I dream in technicolor. But somewhere down the line the doubt seeps in constantly nagging me about how am I supposed to fit part-time grad school studies into a full-time work schedule. Instead I should just do it. I've got to follow through. I need to walk by faith.

4. I want to work on eating right and exercising. A few years ago, I was serious about it. I used to plan what I ate and put off phone calls and anything else until I finished my time on my bike. But lately, I come home late from work and can barely figure out what to cook. And the only exercise I get is walking up 5 flights of steps at work. I'm not sure that's a real workout. If I could only get home from work earlier, I could get back on track.

5. I want to continue to discover ways to save and invest money to ensure a bright future.

6. I want to cook more this year. Last year was a wash with the fast food and microwavable garbage. Currently, I have a taste for a dish of sweet corn, tomatoes, green peppers, and minced onions (not alot of onions) or perhaps a bowl of warm rice pudding sprinkled with nutmeg and cinnamon. That's the kind of food that you can't find in the frozen section of the grocery store.

7. I suppose that I should get out more this year. My schedule usually involves traveling from work to home or home to work. So, I guess I better start taking folks up on their invitations for dates, dinner parties, etc.

8. I should try to have fun more. I guess watching old reruns of "The Golden Girls" or "Living Single" can't be considered as fun and exciting. Oh well.

As the Queen of Procrastination, I truly hope to accomplish all of my goals.

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Speaking of the New Year, I found the following interesting 2006 calendars and placed them in a collage format. Enjoy! ==>

Season's Greetings

"Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people. For unto you is this day, in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord."
- Luke: 2:10, 11

To all that grace my blog, I want to wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!!!...And to those who don't celebrate Christmas, I wish you peace and happiness also.

Ladies...Ladies: What's Up With Your Makeup?

Does Your MakeUp Make You Look Like You Work For A Circus???!!!

Can we openly and honestly chat for a minute about makeup do's and dont's? I'm a girly girl who loves the color pink (and green), going to the salon, doing some shopping, buying cute shoes, and buying makeup. But, girl, believe me, I've seen some mistakes, which have lead some women to look like sideshow or circus clowns. Or perhaps, they could have applied to teach at the highly esteemed Ringling Brothers and Barnum & Bailey Clown College in Sarasota, Florida.

I know that makeup application can be tricky. What works for one lady may not work for another. There are different skin complexions and facial features such as lips and high cheek bones to consider. I had to pass down my tips to friends and family who don't wear much makeup. I've been having fun shopping for makeup at department stores and drugs stores since college. I've spent time experimenting with what works and what doesn't. But I will say is that I don't think everyone has to wear it, because it is a woman's personal decision to wear cosmetics or not. Family and friends have approached me about helping them, because they were either trying to prepare to take some nice pictures at a photography studio or were preparing for a ball, a prom, or a wedding day. They had no inkling on what to do. They didn't know the makeup brands, what shade to wear,or the differences in foundation. Just nothing. So, I put together the following tips. Please feel free to add some yourself:

Makeup Tips:

1) My #1 tip is that everyone really doesn't need makeup. Makeup is used to accentuate one's features. But no one should be made to feel like she has to wear it, especially if she doesn't want to. But if she does, I hope that she will use it responsibly and sparingly. Folks with beautiful complexions, please don't mess up your skin with a palette of circus clown colors. Some folks can get away with just wearing a little powder to cut down the shine and maybe a little bit of lip stick or lip gloss.

2) Please don't let department store makeup clerks or Mary Kay ladies con you into buying the whole makeup and cosmetics line. That stuff can get really expensive buying those whole packages, which may consist of: foundation, pressed powder, compact powder, blush, mascara, eyeliner, eye shadow, lipstick, lip gloss, eye cream, facial cleanser, facial moisturizer, facial mask, etc., and on and on till the break of dawn. Some of that stuff such as the mascara, eyeliner, cleansers and moisturizers can be purchased at a discount store for far less.

3) Experiment way before you have a social engagement to determine what works for you and what doesn't. Also determine which stores or venues (Mary Kay, Avon, etc.) are the best for you to purchase items according to availability. For example, some stores like W.almart and T.arget have some of the best prices, but once the inventory gets low, sometimes they don't reorder for a while. Department stores are better at staying stocked up, but be sure you want to pay those prices. Side Note: I love MAC's lipstick.

4) Don't try to look like somebody else. Folks are forever trying to look like Halle Berry or Janet Jackson or Beyonce'. But folks are unique. We can never really look like anybody else. So, why don't we just focus on accentuating our own features?

5) Don't be afraid to consult a cosmetics professional for more complicated things (waxing eyebrows and mustaches...arching eyebrows...dyeing eyebrows, etc.). Have you seen some ladies who purposely shave or tweeze their eyebrows and then try to draw it back? Or have you seen other ladies' eyebrows that look like McDonald's golden arches or Joan Crawford's eyebrows? I know my limits. I can do some things on my own, but I leave my eyebrows alone. Fortunately, my eyebrows don't need much work, but if I needed help, I would have someone else shape them for me. But if you can do it well, go on with your bad self.

6) Blend, blend, blend. I love Patti Labelle's music. She one of my most favorite stars. And I think she's a really nice and gracious person. I had the chance to meet her some years ago at a book signing. She was nothing but humble and stayed late to make sure she signed everybody's books. But one time, one of her makeup artists needed to be ashamed of himself. He needed to be play slapped and punched. At another event, the makeup artist had Patti looking like a french clown, because he made her face look 10 times lighter than the rest of her body. She was wearing an off the shoulder dress, so it looked sort of strange to see her face one color, and her neck and hands another color. I just hope that she'll stick to another makeup artist the next time.

7) Try to take excellent care of your skin. Don't sleep in your makeup; be sure to wash it off thoroughly everyday. Wash your face with a cleanser appropriate for your skin type (sensitive, dry, oily, or normal). And follow-up with an astringent that's not harsh to the skin to wipe away the makeup that the soap didn't get. Then follow-up with a great moisturizer. And be sure to take a rest from the makeup sometimes. I have fun wearing makeup to work, but I don't wear it at home or on the weekends. The pores got to breathe.

8) For sanitary reasons, never ever apply makeup directly to your skin at the cosmetics counter at the store where everybody else has touched and used it. Can you imagine trying on lipstick that everybody else has used on their lips? Many department stores have samples or simply hold up the color beside your skin without putting it on your skin.

9) Find out the proper techniques. I've seen a couple of ladies look burgundy, because they applied blush all over their faces as if it was foundation.

10) Makeup doesn't have to be so dramatic. A little can go a long way. Actresses on broadway need dramatic makeup so that people seated far away in the theater can see them. And clowns wear dramatic makeup to look silly.

11) I will say this again. Determine what works for you. Learn to love yourself so that no matter whether you choose to wear makeup or not, you're satisfied with just being you.

Thanksgiving Day Revisited: No Time For Beginner's Cooking Lessons...

A Recap Of Thanksgiving...And A Public Service Announcement Concerning Cooking...

I sure hope that everyone had a beautiful Thanksgiving holiday spent with family and friends. Mine was nice. My family doesn't celebrate Thanksgiving in the same manner as history dictated with the pilgrims and the Indians, only to have the pilgrams later take the Indian's land. Rather we use this day to give thanks to the Lord. Let me run down everything that happened. A week before traveling to NC, I planned to bake a double layer coconut cake as part as my contribution to the Thanksgiving dinner. Well, folks things didn't work that way. I caught a nasty cold the day before Thanksgiving. I had that scratchy feeling in the back of my throat that let me know that a cold was on its way. Bummer dude!!! But I charged forward on Thanksgiving morning. I managed to straighten up my place before making the 4 1/2 hour (really 5 hours...ole lead foot) trip home. I got home in just enough time before I lost my taste buds, because of the cold. I'll just say this though. Nothing, I say, nothing beats a home cooked meal. Mom threw down in the kitchen. I knew that she would. That's why I skipped breakfast and lunch. Plus, it was nice to spend time with my parents and sibblings. But I tell you what. To make up for the missed cake, I'll bake it around Christmas. Maybe I'll bake a pecan pie too.

Warning Ticket: Here's A Public Service Announcement For Non-Cooking Folks Who Try To Break Bad And Try To Cook A Thanksgiving Meal!!!!

I'll tell you what precipitated this warning. The other day I called friends to see how their Thanksgiving holiday went. Most told me that they had a great time. The food was great. And the time spent with family was priceless and memorable. That's so sweet. But then a friend of mine told me about his holiday. He said that he spent it with family like everyone else. However, he told me that the person who proudly designated herself as the Thanksgiving Chef made a terrible mistake, which indicated to me that she was a newcomer to the world of the kitchen. The cook didn't know any better to remove the liver and gibblet bag from inside the cavity of the turkey and to wash the turkey thoroughly. *Gross-O-Rama X 10* My friend said that the cook was nice, yet very embarrassed. But his family overlooked that mishap and still enjoyed the company of the family. They grinned and bared the mishap by just shifting the turkey around their plates without eating it. I'm glad that everything else went well.

But, really, why of all days do new learners try to learn how to cook on the Super Bowl of Dinners? Thanksgiving is no ordinary dinner. The best spread of food is supposed to be laid out. And dinner guests don't feel like hearing why the dinner rolls look like charcoal or why the turkey still looks raw and gamey. People wish to partake in a delicious meal. And they want seconds, thirds, and a doggie bag so that they may enjoy a late night snack at their homes. So stop playing around, Chef newbies. Stop the madness, I say!

All cooking rookies don't lose faith though. It would be wise for the rookies to practice cooking Sunday dinner throughout the year. Or at least practice cooking period. Cooking doesn't have to be scary for you or your dinner guests. Cooking can be quite fun. I try to have mercy on some non-cooking folks, because they weren't raised to cook like myself. However, I will say that there is a wealth of information out here on how to prepare food properly. Last week, the rookies could have consulted a basic cookbook, called the Butterball turkey hotline, searched the internet for recipes, watched the Food Network, or simply called a longtime cook who wouldn't have minded passing down a few time-tested recipes and techniques. I only say this, because year after year I always hear of at least one person who doesn't know to clean out the turkey's cavity. For that matter, it applies to all meats, such as cornish hens and chickens. I can only wonder how many times possible harmful bacteria multiplied in an uncleaned bird. Trust me. I'm not trying to gross anybody out. I just want people to realize that food safety and cleaniness play a large role in preparing a delicious meal. Besides, no cook wants to hear about his dinner guests getting sick behind his food. Don't give up. Just practice and practice until you get good at cooking. ;-)

Happy Thanksgiving...

Everyone Have A Safe And Great Holiday!!!

As we all prepare to travel or stay home to give thanks to the Lord, I just wanted to type this brief blog entry a little early to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving Holiday!!!

Attention: Jury Duty Identity Theft Scam...

Beware of the Newest Identity Theft Scheme

Scam artists are getting so ridiculous these days. Unfortunately, they think of everything. This morning as I was getting ready for work, I heard about a new scam. It involves jury duty. Many of us are law abidding citizens and take our responsibilities seriously. So, if someone claiming to work for a municipal court calls, most people expect for the call to be legitimate. In this day of caller ID, most folks don't expect to receive a bold phone call from a crook.

Well, that wasn't the case for a lady I heard about on the news. Someone called her house asking for her and her husband's SSN and other personal information in order to mail her jury duty summons to them. Unfortunately, the scam artist caught her off-guard and she provided that person with the information. After not receiving the summons after a certain amount of time, she called the court. An court official revealed to her that they never called her and wouldn't ask for personal identification information over the phone. She then realized that she had been duped. No telling who has her and her husband's information. And there's telling what they will do with the information. It's just so disturbing that crooks actually have the nerve to call people with the intent to commit fraudulent acts. Crooks have no right to anything, but to be locked up in jail. So beware of this new scam. Let friends and family also know to never reveal personal information to someone calling them on the phone. Instead, offer to call the court yourself or to show up at the court to inquire about your phone call. For more information, read on here. ==> Jury Duty Identity Theft Scam

The Definition of an Old Maid...

Single Ladies, Is this How You Define Yourself?

Old Maid n (ca. 1530) 1: Spinster; an unmarried woman and esp. one past the common age for marrying; a woman who seems unlikely to marry. 2: a prim, fussy person. 3: a simple card game in which cards are matched in pairs and the player holding the unmatched card at the end loses.


Well, well, well, who would have known that we were going to play real life musical chairs as adults? I remember playing the game in school and at birthday parties as a kid. You remember? When the music is playing you walk around a cirlce of chairs, but when the music stops, everyone scrambles for a chair. Then one person will be left without a chair. Hmmm. It seems like the real life card game of Old Maid works the same way. The music has stopped, and some of us are left without a husband. WHERE'S MY CHAIR? WHERE'S MY HUSBAND? That's what society has brainwashed us to think.

Now that the holiday season is about to roll around, watch and see how many folks ask you why you are still single and never have been married or never have been engaged for that matter. Be prepared for the inquisition/interrogation. Folks will demand answers from you, especially if you plan to spend your holidays in your hometown where you no longer live. That's the case for me. I hail from a few places (via college campus to college campus during my childhood), however, the place I consider my hometown happens to be a gossipy little town in North Carolina. Nobody, DO YOU HEAR ME???, nobody is nosier than old ladies (old bats) from the south. They are professional athletes. They train year-round. In fact, they're prepared to swim deep and long into your personal business as if it was an Olympic pool. So be prepared for the professionals.

My family and close family are excluded from the lynch mob (inquisition/interrogation board). They already know why I have "chosen" not to marry yet. I'm not against the idea of marriage, I just haven't met the one. I happen to think that love is a beautiful thing. So, we don't engage in long, tiresome conversations about my prospects. I've already told them when God sends me the right one, I'll let them know when to call the bakery. (side note: I love cake!!!) They are satisfied with my answer. But the Inquisition/Interrogation League of Noses will be in full swing during Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's Day. They will first ask things like they are so innocent when they can see that a ring isn't on your finger. Then they will ask why a pretty girl like you hasn't been snatched up. Then they'll ask, perhaps, whether you are too independent with your little college degree, car, home, and hoity toity job. Then they'll say how sad it is that you haven't birthed any children, and basically how your whole existence is such a waste pretty similar to a crumpled up piece of paper, which has no future other than ending up in a dumpster.

Well, next week I'll be ready for the Society Noses. Here's an announcement. ==> I ain't no punk, or wimp, or chump!!! I know how to handle the nosey society ladies. *hee hee* It's just a matter of conservational manipulation. There's a way to get the upper hand. Watch me:
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Scene: **Zee At The Grocery Store Minding Her Business**

Mrs. Old Hag: Well, Hello, Aziza. I see that you're here from Maryland. Oh. I saw your new car. It's looks like you're doing well.

Zee: Hello, Mrs. Old Hag. Yes, I'm here for the holidays. I just thought I'd pick up a couple of things at the store to bake a pecan pie and a coconut cake.

Mrs. Old Hag: Umm. Aziza, how's your love life? Have you been keeping company with a young man? Aren't you concerned about nature's clock? You young gals act like you all don't need a man. You all are just too independent. Perhaps, you should have waited to buy your first place after you married. What can a man do for you now, since you got everything? If you go to grad school, you surely won't find a man. Too much education could scare the prospects away. You really should have married a nice fellow from your college classes in the past. My son and and daughter-in-law have a beautiful home. They have a couple of kids and are doing really, really well. My son is looking at becoming partner at his firm. *brag* *brag* *brag* *blah blah* *blah blah* *blah blah* *blubber* *gum smacking* *gibberish*

Zee: *Instead of frowning, Zee smiles.* I'm doing well...I'm fine.... *Zee selectively ignores questions.*

Zee: Oh, by the way, how is your other son doing? *Zee knows that Mrs. Old Hag's 30-Something year old, non-working, lazy son lives with her and plays computer games all daylong* -- *See how I turned that conversation around? *Hmph*

Mrs. Old Hag: *Clears Her Throat And Looks Away.* Umm. Son of Hag is doing well. Well, Aziza, it was nice seeing you. Take care. And tell your family that I said Hello.

Zee: Will Do. Happy Thanksgiving!!!! *Zee Cops A Meow Mix Chessy Cat Smile*

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Now don't get me wrong. All folks aren't like old hags. There are a few other well meaning folks. There are some nice old ladies with nice, intelligent, handsome, employed, unmarried, straight, God-fearing sons. If they ask me if I'm not married, they may be asking to get me in contact with their sons. That's cool. I might even enjoy that.

Aside from all of this, single sisters shouldn't feel bad about their marital status (or the lack there of). There's nothing to be ashamed of. Therefore, there is no reason to stay home during the holidays trying to hide from the world. Please don't sit around reminiscing about failed relationships and missed opportunities. Get that hair done, dress up, and enjoy yourself at the holiday parties. Don't worry about finding a husband, because God is in control and knows what we need. Besides how can you meet Mr. Right, if you don't get out? That's what some folks told me. *wink*

Tech Tuesday: Your S.ony/B.MG Music CDs

Here's something that you might want to read about. Last week, a co-worker and friend of mine forwarded an article to me about S.ony/BMG's music CDs. Apparently, in an effort to prevent people from illegally mass producing and selling the work of S.ony/C.olumbia artists, the company didn't tell music buyers that their CDs placed possibly harmful software on their computers that would open them up to hackers. S.ony didn't actually apologize for not telling customers that they held their computer's in harms way, but provided instructions on how to remove the software from their computers. They only took action after computer security experts got on their case. If you are concerned about this issue, please read on for more specifics==> S.ony/B.MG CDs and Unmentioned Software

When I read this article, I thought about how many S.ony/C.olumbia CDs that I bought this year. Just a few, but enough to do damage to my computer. Two in particular led to me to think that this happened to me. I usually buy most of my music in the middle of my workday at lunch time. Music is what keeps me calm at work and does a great job of focusing me on the task at hand. Once I remember trying to play a CD, but I was prevented from doing so. I was thinking, "Hmm. Did I just purchase a defective CD or was the computer set up (firewalls) at my job the reason for the CD not playing?" I took it home later that day, but I first had to go through some steps, before it would let me play it. I went ahead with S.ony/B.MG's instructions, because they claimed that the CD had some bonus hidden tracks and videos. I wonder could this possibly be what the articles are talking about. I guess I'll have to think twice before buying certain CDs.

Reporting From Cubicle Office 8-4

Co-Worker Workplace Violations...Drats!!!


I fully understand that I must work for for a living. As adults, that's just our lot in life. Fine. But why should the working experience be made so miserable by a few annoying, busybody co-workers? Let me hurry up and type this post, before one of them runs up on me during my break time. The violations are as following:

Personal Space Violators:

I don't know whether this has anything to do with the new perfume I've been wearing or what. But at least 3 co-workers have been violating my personal space, which annoys me to the highest degree. When I can see up their nose, and smell their breath, I think that's just too close up. I just can't understand why they feel they need to get up on me like that. And no matter how much I step back from them, they step forward to me....Touchy Feely Folks (TFFs) also fall into this category. They just can't hold a conversation unless they are touching or rubbing up on you. Enough already with the police pat downs and frisks. STOP IT!!!!!!*Adding HR & EEO Numbers To the Speed Dialing List*

Office Busybodies:

Office Busybodies are those co-workers who listen to your telephone calls, peak over your shoulder to see what is on your computer screen, ask you what time you came to work, inquire whether you were away from the office on a particular day, keep track of your lunchtime (and what you ate), ask you how much money you make, try to find out what kind of car you drive, ask you where you live, ask how much you pay for your rent/mortgage, ask about your personal life (boyfriend), poke around your cubicle when you walk away, and so on and so forth. I kid you not. Everything that I've listed has happened in my office.

Overly Competitive Co-Workers:

I know that many of us are striving to provide excellent work, however, is it really necessary for some to step on the heads of others to elevate themselves? A few weeks ago, a co-worker of mine took a project from me without telling me, because I sided with our attorneys. He didn't give me the courtesy of asking me whether I would mind trading projects with him. I very well would have given it to him. I started to fire off an email to him telling him how I didn't appreciate his lowdown, insincere tactics . But I decided against the email, and let it slide. Nevertheless, what's done is done. I keep reminding myself that I can't and shouldn't fight every battle that finds its way to me. Besides, I need to concentrate on determining how I will fit my new graduate school classes into my schedule.

Non-Handwashers:

Didn't we learn how to wash our hands as little kids? Apparently, some folks missed that all so important lesson from the looks of things in my office. There have been times when I have witnessed some female co-workers walk straight from the ladies' room stall out of the restroom altogether without putting any water and soap on their hands. Ladies aren't the only ones. Some male friends have told me that other men pee and go as well. And guess what? These are the same folks who just love having pot luck parties at work. They are forever bringing food to work. One old chick had the nerve to bring in strawberries that she dipped in chocolate. Now you know good and well that I didn't partake any of that. Besides, I didn't feel like testing my gag reflex. Shux, who are these people? *Good Grief*

Romantic Date Hunters/Stalkers:

These are the absolute worst. My motto at work is ==> Don't Bother Me!!! I'm really not mean at all by default. I was raised in the South. So, I will engage in light conversation to be polite.

A few years ago, an old (50-something year old) Puerto Rican co-worker couldn't seem to leave me the heck alone. I have to admit that to be nice I speak to all of the people who have cubicles near mine. The conversation usually relates to news, the weather, and other non-specific type of crap. However, Mr. D took things differently. Since I really have a hard time coming into work early, I end up spending late evenings in the office. He did too. But I would be working and minding my own business. When everybody else on the early schedule would leave, he would come to my office and chat about everything under the sun. He insisted that we Blacks and Hispanics should stick together. Many times, I would have to sneak away from the office before he made his way to me. He demanded that we spoke everyday.

Then one day lo and behold he struck the wrong chord with MISS ZEE. He let me know that he regularly listened to my phone calls, and other co-workers told me that they noticed him watching me. And another time, he tried to fill me out by asking what he could do to become appealing to the women, and whether he was too old for me. I ignored him, and went about my way. Besides, I don't get down with the elderly. But he got more forceful and annoying. While I was in the cafeteria waiting for my food, he came up behind me in line and said that he missed our conversations in front of the cafeteria lady serving the food. You should have seen the look on her face. Mr. D made things sound like we had a little something going on. Not! I didn't dignify him and walked off. Things never got better. He still stares, but I ended up moving my office to another cubicle to get away from him. Why can't folks just take the hint, and blast off? Hit the road, Jack!

I think that I've covered the most common violators in my office, and sincerely hope that you don't have to endure this kind of mess at your job. Hmm. Maybe I need to find a new office.

Does Mr. Biggs Have An Appointment With The Big House???

And Could the Caped Crusader's Musical Sidekick, R. Kelly, Join Him In The Big House Playing The Role of Robin?

Oh my. Say it ain't so. The ever-young, so-called ladies' man, dapper dan is in big, big trouble. The news wires have reported that 64-year old Ronald Isley aka Mr. Biggs has been recently convicted on multiple counts of tax evasion. It appears that Mr. Biggs didn't pay his taxes from 1997-2002 on his performance fees. The court also claims that he put property and a yacht in the names of his former wife and corporations, while also collecting royalty money due to his deceased brother's estate. I really don't understand why so many celebrities fall victim to their taxes, because although they have attorneys and accountants, they themselves the stars will have to serve time in jail for not taking personal responsibility. Mr. Biggs may give the impression of an old, old pimp in the music industry, but can he really hang in the confines of jail? He could face 26 years in the slammer. *Oh Snap* For more specifics, read the following: Mr. Biggs' Taxing Problem

With Martha Stewart just finishing her time, Lil' Kim currently doing her time, and the court estimating Ron Isley's, it appears that they may not be alone. Last week, it was reported that R. Kelly's legal case (involving illegal videotape dealings with underage girls) will continue and will not be thrown out as requested by his lawyers. For more information, read the following: R.Kelly's Not Off The Hook

Entertainment News: Star and Al Reynolds

Star's Hubby Was Arrested for License Suspension Flap

News reports stated that Star Jones Reynolds' husband, Sweety Al, was arrested recently for driving with a suspended license after being stopped by the police for changing lanes without signaling. It's still not totally clear what the license suspension part is all about, but I've heard that there was some paperwork mixups or problems.

But what the real news is that New York newspapers have been reporting that Al was arrested at 2:48 a.m. (Where was he driving to or from that time of the morning?....Hmmm....Al La Eddie *Majetty* Murphy"), and that Star didn't come to the police station to see him. Therefore, he was detained for 12 hours. Rather, the publicist had to go down to the Five-0 to take care of Al's business. By the way, in a few weeks the couple will celebrate their first wedding anniversay. Last year, Soror just about made everyone sick talking about every detail leading up to her wedding. With all that love, I'm still wondering whether Star was in a deep sleep and didn't hear the phone or what when Al called. Or maybe she was feeling a little depressed about the E! cable channel dropping her from the future red carpet shows that she was meant to fill in after Joan and Melissa Rivers left. I don't know. However, someone said that on the show, "The View", she stated that she did make it to the police station, but came through the back door. Hmmm. Okay. *looking out of side of the eyes* *crickets chirping* *Ahem* Alrighty. Nevertheless, I hope that they clear this mess up. For more information read on. ==> Al Reynolds

Thursday Morning's Rampage And Rant Fest...

This Is Not My First Time At The Rodeo!!!...

(Side Note: Excuse this entry if it doesn't make sense, because I just must release this stress...Alrighty?...I'm still a lady though.)
Take a strong look at the picture above. Just imagine a caramel version of that, and know that captures me right about now. That picture is from the movie, "Mommie Dearest", which features Faye Dunaway as Joan Crawford. Yeah, yeah, yeah, Joan was off the hook and just about insane when it came to disciplining her children, but the woman didn't take any mess off no one. Do you hear me? The above picture is from a scene where the Pepsi Cola chairman and board are sitting at one end of a table in a board room, with Joan on the other end. The chairman and the board tried to strongarm Joan into resigning her board member position from the board. She didn't take that slap lying down. She raised up and handled her business. That should be me.



Speaking of Joan's insanity, do you all (those who have seen the movie) remember the part where she has a meltdown and crazefest directed to Christina, her young daughter, over some stupid wire hangers? Faye should have won the Lifetime Academy Award in the Psychotic Broads' Category for her performance in this scene. She ended up screaming at the top of her lungs, making crazed clown faces, pulling all of the clothes out of the closet, whipping her child with the wire hanger, wildly sprinkling Comet bathroom cleaner all over the floor, and crawling away on all fours like a bear at the end. Many folks in real life act like they are too good to do any of that. But after being passed over for promotions for years at a time, seeing gas prices go through the roof, coping with other bills climbing skyward, driving crazy highway commutes to and from work, sitting for long periods of time pumping out work, receiving unreasonable and complicated work assignments after the due date, and hearing a new troubling noise from a 9 year old car, going off, screaming at the top of one's lungs, and crawling away like a bear seems totally appropriate for one not to be ashamed of not one teen weeny little bit. Oops. Was I talking about me? *frown* Well, it is what is. *shrug*

Although the grizzly bear's claw is grappling at my neck at work, I'm still reaching for and looking for a brighter day. Know that this is not my first time at the rodeo and that eventually I'll be alright. Until then, the ranting continues. Yesterday, I interviewed for another assignment in another office at "THE ORGANIZATION." I sure hope and pray that I get it, but I also pray and hope that it will work out beautifully if I do get it if you know what I mean. There's no sense in going from the frying pan to the skillet. Hmph!!!

Babyface and Tracey Edmonds End Their Marriage

Another Celebrity Couple Gone The Way Of Splitsville: And Another One Bites The Dust...

As I drove to work this morning, I heard that Babyface and his wife, Tracey, who have two sons, were ending their marriage after 13 years. I wasn't sure to believe this bit of news at first, because I generally don't depend upon or trust the news from music stations, because their primary purpose is to entertain. The Russ Parr
Show on one of the Washington, DC stations did a spoof of a person sounding like Babyface singing a song about him spotting his wife at the taping of his music video. But after hearing at least other three stations discussing this issue, I finally started to believe it. According to the news, the splitting couple provided the following statement:

"It is with deep regret that we announce our permanent separation. We remain best friends. We will continue to work together in our companies, and our various business ventures. More importantly, we are parents of two wonderful children, and will continue to provide a loving, caring and stable environment for them." For more information read on ==> Babyface and Tracey Split

Back in the height of Babyface's career when he produced his own songs such as "Whip Appeal", "Soon As I Get Home", "Tender Lover", "For The Cool In You", and other hits, things seemed to be going so well for him professionally and personally. He met Tracey when she was auditioning to be in one of his videos. And from there, it looked like their lives took off. They looked like such a happy couple. Shortly after marrying, Babyface helped Tracey start Yab Yum Entertainment, which managed Jon B.'s music career and produced the movie and cable tv show, "Soul Food." Babyface and L.A. Reid were highly sought after producers who reliably produced hits in collaboration with TLC, Toni Braxton, and Mariah Carey. And Babyface produced the soundtrack to "Waiting To Exhale", which I still love to listen to this day. Babyface and Tracey had a couple of kids and a beautiful home. The power couple seemed to see no limits. However, Babyface and Tracey are going the route (of divorce) that so many celebrity couples are taking these days. I have to admit that I was a little shocked. I wonder what happened. However, in any case, I wish them well.

Bill Bennett's Ignorant Comments...

Billy Made Comments Stating That Aborting Black Infants Would Reduce The Crime Rate...

For a while now, I've noticed that some racists have found today's political climate conducive to them making all kinds of hateful comments. The most recent type of comments came from Conservative Commentator and former Secretary of Education (Reagan Administration) Bill Bennett. And folks like him claim to advocate family values. So much for that. *shrug*

On Bennett's radio program, "Morning In America", he made a comment about aborting black infants to reduce the crime rate in response to a caller's comment. Then he went on to say, "That would be an impossible, ridiculous and morally reprehensible thing to do, but your crime rate would go down." Was that some half-hearted pre-apology that he was providing to cover his behind if someone tried to call him on it or what? Would Bennett have advocated the mothers of killers Jeffrey Dahmer and Tim McVeigh aborting them? But no, he was suggesting that black folks have a monopoly on crime.

Instead of apologizing, Bennett is now saying that others should apologize to him for misrepresenting his words. Say what? However, the "POINT" is that he never should have said that at all. At times like this I wonder where are folks like Bill Cosby and the black conservatives such as Rev. Creflo Dollar and former Congressmen J.C. Watts and Gary Franks. Then people like Michael Steele, the Lieutenant Govenor for the State of Maryland, wonder why black folks have a hard time voting for his fellow conservatives who agree with and spout that kind of ignorance. For more information, see the following news report ==> ABC News: Bill Bennett's Comments.

Hostage Gave Killer Crystal Meth...

Several Months Later Hostage Fills In Blanks:
Well, Well, Well....A Bit More Of The Truth Is Revealed...

As you may recall, a few months ago a prisoner being escorted to a court appearance overcame the court deputy by severely injurying her. And he continued his rampage by shooting and killing several court employees, including a judge. On his two-day killing spree, the killer held the Atlanta area in a state of emergency, because he kept slipping through the hands of the police authorities. But on a Saturday morning, I remember watching CNN as a SWAT team prepared to take custody of the killer who was giving himself up. Afterwards, the media immediately praised a hostage for keeping calm and reading parts of "A Purpose Driven Life", a Christian book, to the killer. She also made pancakes for the killer. News correspondents proclaimed her as an angel, while local government officials prepared to give her award money for safely delivering the killer to the authorities. Read on ==> Latest News Report

Hmm. Well, now. The above represents the news media's perspective. But from my perspective and those of my friends, we believed that there was a little more to the story. Call it what you want to, but I call it woman's intuition. And many times we are RIGHT. We thought something was amiss. We believed that the power of the WORD can cause a killer to change his ways. But umm. Making pancakes for the chump of a killer is another story. Some of my friends thought that perhaps she may have had some "relations" with the killer to persuade him to release her. I wasn't so sure about this theory, but I still believed that something was being left unsaid. Now news reports state that the hostage, Ashley Smith, gave the killer, Brian Nichols, some crystal meth from her personal stash. Say what?

If the truth is the truth and shall stand on its own, why is it just now that the crystal meth part is coming out in the news? Why wasn't this news revealed earlier? Did the media and the police authorities believe that the image of an angel and that of a drug addict hostage wouldn't jive with a "Beauty And The Beast-like" story that played out in the news headlines around the world? No telling what anyone would have done at gunpoint, but I ask again why was crystal meth fact quietly brushed under the rug. However, twisting and manipulating the news through omission resulted in an inaccurate portrayal of the set of events. Had Miss Ashley been Miss LaKeisha, Miss LaKeisha would have been taken in (to jail) for possession, since the law does not excuse the use and possession of illegal drugs under any circumstances. But no, authorities are not going to pursue this new bit of information, because of the Miss Ashley status. So, some of you don't get it twisted, KNOW that everyone is glad that the killer is caught and is back in jail where he belongs. However, also KNOW that LaKeisha would have been dogged out in the press for using drugs to sooth the savage beast. And just think, all along many of us had a feeling that there was more to this story. I guess some of us are experts at spotting "Tricknology" by the media and the authorities when we see it. *shrug*